Speaking of motherhood, one cannot help but refer to one's own family of origin. Every future mother has been a daughter, every father has received from his own parent a model to aspire to, or one to distance himself from as mistaken, but which will nonetheless continue to exist as a reference point. In fact, in every human being, the family they come from and the land of their origin represent a fundamental constant, something to draw inspiration from or to take into account. (In energetic terms, this phenomenon is linked to grounding and to the functioning of the first chakra.)
It often happens, however, that future parents carry unresolved conflicts tied precisely to their «origin»: family rifts, maternal or paternal models they consider inadequate because absent or deeply problematic. Or emotional tensions tied to the «land» they come from, which they have deliberately distanced themselves from, in which they do not recognize themselves, and whose customs and cultural references they have knowingly abandoned.
In these cases, parents tend to think that by bringing their new child into a different setting, raising them according to parenting models different from those they themselves received, the little one will finally be free and unburdened from what represented a weight for them.
This is only partly true. Each of us, in order to develop as a whole, well-rounded human being, needs to know who we are, who our relatives are, what our grandparents did for a living, how they lived, or what kind of children our own parents were in turn, how they played as children, and what the family stories are. Innate curiosity will lead children, regardless, to ask questions as teenagers, and to run up against a reluctance to share information tied to these deep aspects of family life.
From an energetic standpoint, precisely because of the principle that «nothing is created and nothing is destroyed», if there is an unresolved conflict, for example between a young mother and her own family, this tension is nonetheless sensed by the child, and will be internalized and absorbed «with the mother's milk», we might say, never simply ignored. This is why it is so important for future or new parents to work on themselves and resolve their own inner conflicts around these fundamental, deep aspects of life.
A young mother who has not spoken to her own mother for years, or who deliberately ignores her for whatever valid reason, creates, energetically, a block in the free flow of the family's vital current, and also sets a precedent, that is, a model that her own son or daughter, as an adult, may in turn follow, cutting ties with her as well.
A father who is ashamed of his family of origin, or of his culture or homeland, will inevitably pass on to his child the message that it is acceptable to entirely disown one's own roots, perhaps judging them without ever having known them.
For any parent, resolving one's own unfinished business and working deeply on oneself to make peace with one's family roots should be a primary need. Ideally, it would be best to settle every open matter before setting out on the parenting and educational journey, but it is never too late to begin.
There are many techniques, from psychotherapy to energetic techniques for working through one's own traumas, such as Reiki. What matters is becoming aware that what we ignore remains intact, though hidden, for as long as we do not decide to remove it.